A huge component of my personal divorce was my “Board of Directors.” I call these people my touchstone to reality. I explain the components of a Board of Directors and the role of each part. I believe if people don’t jump too quickly into a divorce and use their Board of Directors to properly process feelings, marriages can be saved. However, even if divorce is the end result, the Board of Directors can help make the process therapeutic. In this case, the legal process of divorce is productive and does not yield a broken home but, two healthy family units.

Secondly, I share my experiences as an attorney. I candidly explain some common attorney types and how they prey on clients for their own financial gain. I give clients the tools to recognize when and how they are manipulated by attorneys so that the client can be a wise consumer. I give 10 questions and model answers for the initial consultation to help the client evaluate the attorney. I explain generally the process of divorce and things the client should require in the attorney client contract. I then explain the legal divorce verses the emotional divorce. When people confuse the two aspects they create unnecessary financial and emotional costs. I give examples to illustrate how people improperly bring emotion into the legal process of divorce, including “10 Things to Never Do In a Divorce”.

Lastly, I explain ways unresolved feelings can lead people back to court after a divorce. I share personal examples of conflict with my ex-Husband and how we’re learning to co-parent as a two household family. I discuss how contempt and modification actions can be detrimental to the family and alternative methods of resolving conflict. I share how my “happy ever after” looks today. All of these tools are designed to assist the readers to move effectively through the process and find their own happiness.